Thursday, September 3, 2009

I got taken out of my happy place

Theres some cussin here just to warn you.
Ok so yesterday I went with my family to the great New York State Fair.I have some amazing video that I will post in the next few days ( If its not too dark that is).The whole day was wonderful except......for this teenage girl.My 67 yr old mother has terminal lung cancer and needs to be in a wheel chair.That place is PACKED everywhere you go so its hard to move, imagine trying to maneuver a wheelchair.( I think there was almost 80 thousand people there yesterday)Well this teenage girl was with her friend and was blocking entrance to a tent I wanted to get into.I said excuse me twice, she looked back at me but didn't move,so I squeezed by her.She called me a bitch and turned around.Now I was with my family so I decided to let it go, plus its not the 1st, and I doubt the last time, I will be called that.But for the next 10 mins she circled around us and gave me dirty looks the whole time.She stared in my direction no matter where she went, I think she was trying to intimidate me :\ I knew I was being drawn out of my happy place but I couldn't help it.I tried to ignore her and her friend but it was getting hard.She decided to walk past us and leaned over to my mother and said "Get the fuck out of my way grandma" I cut her off as she walked by and said "Excuse me, what did you just say?"( There might have been a f bomb there.....ok Im sure there was)At this point I lost it and the city girl in me came busting out with her head rolling on its shoulders,her fists clenched and her mouth in full force.Her mother had to have been close by because she came running and grabbed her daughter and shoved her away from me, Im guessing to protect her.Her daughter continued to swear and shout things to me and she finally said " Oh Im 15, you cant do anything" To which I let her know that her age was not a shield and that if her mother didn't shut her up I would.Her mother shoved her out of the tent and she stayed out there after that, I meant what I said and maybe she realized that.I hate to admit this because I know its not right but honestly if she had come back over there running her mouth it would have gotten very very ugly.But she stayed outside and just continued to yell to the other girl with her.I went to her mother and asked her if she would like to know what happened and I told her everything, she apologized and went out with her kid and I went on about my business.I looked at the women whos shop we were standing in front of and apologized because I felt so bad and she told me "Don't be sorry!!You didn't start it." Then gave me a high 5 and said "Good for you for protecting your mother, you don't mess with a woman's family" :)
I still feel horrid that I let her get to me and I know I should have let it go.I would have but when she leaned over my mother like that I lost it.Thankfully my mothers hearing isn't the best and she was looking at items on a table so she had no idea what was going on till she heard my big ol mouth lol
I hate to admit this but she was EXTREMELY close to getting her ass handed to her, I don't think she has any idea.I think she thought, like most kids, that they can do as they please and nothing bad is going to happen to them.I know 15 is a child, my son is 16, but honestly if my son EVER said anything like that to someone and he got his ass whooped for it then he deserved it.
I just hate that I got to the point of even wanting to hit her.I was very scrappy as a teenager and even up into my early 20's.I wasn't in a emotionally or spiritually healthy place back then.And as a teenager I led a very wild life.So it seems that I can jump back to the mind set very quickly :( I really thought that I had evolved and grew as a person.But there I was, a grown adult arguing with a pissy 15 yr old girl.... who was just like I was.
I honestly hadn't been that angry in a very long time.I still am a bit angry about it and am hoping that typing all of this out will help vent some of it.I hate to admit any of this because I know it sounds terrible on my part, and I wont argue with that. Healthy adults do not argue with mouthy teenagers.Healthy adults see it for what it is and move on.I chose to stand there and argue about it.I chose to stoop to that level and let her take me out of my happy place and I allowed it to fill me with anger.And since Im being honest here,if I saw that girl today I would still want to punch her face out the back of her head.I feel bad for her mother who seemed to be horrified by the whole thing.Im going to guess from her reaction that it was not the 1st time she has had to deal with something like that, its just a hunch.
Ok so there is my tale in all its ugliness.I should probably delete all of this because now Im going to fret about people looking at me in a different light.But I don't know what light you guys looked at me in to even begin with, so Im going to leave it lol It is what it is and its a honest post so Im leaving it.


Rue said...

A "healthy" person defends her own - no matter who is in her face.

This girl needed a good slap and obviously her mother never took care of it! The only reason people act like this is because they believe they can get away with it. I wish you had laid her out on her ass, because then she'd never try this with anyone again. She should be schooled in manners, and if her mother won't do it....

I'm just sorry this messed with your "happy place." You were a saint in my opinion. I don't know one person who wouldn't have flattened that rude girl!

Anonymous said...

If I had been in your shoes, I would have done the same exact thing. Don't worry about what anyone says. I think you did the right thing.

Anonymous said...

OMFG. I'm so angry at that girl! I'm sitting her with my own fists clenched wanting to beat the holy tar out of her. I would have done the exact same thing. You know, my kids don't act like that, not even in private and the reason they don't is because they know damned good and well that I'll whoop their asses for that. That's what's wrong with America's teens, no parental structure. Hell, if I didn't whoop them for it, my own parents darned sure will. We were raised with the knowledge that we didn't act like little twerps, not unless we wanted to pay the price. Kids like that just aggravate me to no end!

I'm so sorry to hear that your Mom is sick. That breaks my heart, truly. High 5s for protecting your Mom.

The One and Only Elfwench said...

honey, I would have done and said pretty much the exact same thing. From the sound of it that girl needs her ass handed to her. One of these days someone will and it will be an eye opener. You certainly don't have to worry about me thinking less of you. In fact the fact you feel so bad now shows just what a good person you are. I hope blogging it out helped a bit.

Bella Foxglove said...

I am laughing so hard right now, and I do not want you to think badly of me for it...but I am the same exact way!

I would have done the same exact thing, and have to a degree. My Mom has really bad COPD and had to have a lung reduction a few years ago, and is on a waiting list for a lung transplant, and she is on oxygen and has a hard time getting around at times and has one of those scooter things..and there has been more than one occasion where I had to deal with mouthy people about it, and some of them mouthy little brats like that. You don't mess with my family, even if we do not get along all the time..

I understand you being upset over it, but I agree with the shop keeper..way to go standing up for your family like that.

mrsb said...

Sweety, the only ugliness in that story is that girl!

Good for you for standing up to her! She needed her ass handed to her, and I hope when she got home, her mom handed it to her again (15 or not, if my kid did anything like that, I'd have put 'em over my knee!!).

I truly believe that there are things to let go, and things to take a stand against, and you were completely justified to stand up for your family.

Amy said...

You get props from me, momma. I have no tolerance for obnoxious kids.

Anonymous said...

Dont fret about people seeing you in a different light. I'd of kicked her sorry ass 15 or not! Teenagers have a serious attitude problem, granted not all teenagers but the minority manage to give the rest a bad name.
Good for you for standing up for your mum, you did a good thing by controling yourself with her because im not sure i could have!

Crazy Squirrel Lady said...

(((HUGS))) to you all!!! I still felt crappy even after writing it out here but your comments have lifted my spirits!!
I want to thank all of you, you have no idea how much it means to me :)
Love & Light!!

Bridgett said...

Nothing but props from me, doll. Seriously. I think most of us in that position would have done the same thing.

I'm sending you massive kudos.

I have no tolerance whatsoever for kids like that. They're exactly what is wrong with the world today.


Anna said...

Just the fact that you feel bad about the whole horrid episode says you are a wonderful person. If it had been me and that little turd had attacked me or my mother I would have lost it. There is no excuse for what she did. I hope her mother let her have it.

D.Suplicki said...

I a bit behind in my blog reading, but I think you were amazing NOT to give her the ass whopping she deserved.

15 or not, that's no excuse to be disrespecful to someone's family and it sure as hell isn't going to protect her from say, someone with less restraint than you or someone else who is a minor.

Good for you for protecting your mom hun! *hugs*